My husband Mark and I spent nearly two years saving every spare dollar to pay for our small wedding of forty guests. We wanted a warm celebration without unnecessary spending, but Mark’s older sister Julia made things difficult with her constant criticism. Julia was a wealthy woman who enjoyed acting superior and often made passive-aggressive comments about our simple choices. On the day of our ceremony, she wore a bold red dress and spent the reception trying to keep all the attention on herself. She even ordered a bottle of expensive champagne on our tab without asking us first. During the speeches, she handed us a thick burgundy envelope and told the entire room that we should not deny ourselves anything.
When Mark and I returned to our hotel room that night, we began the happy task of opening our gifts. Everything from our other friends and family members felt sincere and thoughtful until we reached the envelope from Julia. Mark expected a generous bonus inside, but his face fell when he realized the envelope was completely empty. There was only a postcard inside that told us to live beautifully, which felt like a deliberate slap in the face. While my husband wanted to believe it was a mistake, I knew Julia had planned this insult to make us feel small. I decided to keep the envelope and wait for the perfect moment to return her specific brand of generosity.
Two months later, Julia hosted a birthday dinner at an upscale restaurant and sent out a message demanding cash gifts of at least 50 euros per person. Mark was hesitant to go, but I insisted that we attend because I had already prepared a special surprise for her. When it was our turn to congratulate her during the dinner, I handed back the same burgundy envelope she had given us at the wedding. Inside, I had placed her original postcard along with a note explaining that we were returning her contribution to our future. Julia froze when she recognized the envelope and opened it in front of the other guests to find that there was no money inside.
Julia became furious and demanded to know why we were trying to embarrass her at her own birthday celebration. I calmly explained that the envelope contained exactly what was inside when she gave it to us at our wedding. Mark stood firmly by my side and told his sister that we were simply returning her gift and that neither of us had forgotten her behavior. We chose to walk out of the restaurant while the other guests began to whisper and argue among themselves. Returning exactly what someone gives you turned out to be the most satisfying way to handle the situation. We no longer care about her accusations because we finally stood up for ourselves and our marriage.